Understanding Infertility, Post 2

The Lord remembers us and will bless us.
Psalm 115:4

I knew enough of my God to know that He would never leave me nor forsake me. But sometimes, connecting this thought from the head to the heart can prove difficult. Slowly I began to realize that in asking if He had forgotten me, what I was really bringing in to question was the very goodness of God.

Was it God’s ultimate plan for me to be barren? No. He created women to bring forth life. He promised the children of Israel that if they would follow Him and keep His commands that none of them would be barren or miscarry. No barren woman in the Bible who cried out to Him was ever denied. It was clear from Scripture that God’s desire is for every woman to bring forth life.

Life is, after all, the very hallmark of God.

When sin entered the world through Adam and Eve, death came along with it. Where once there was only life and joy, now mankind, through its own sinful nature, must endure heartache and death. Infertility is a result of man’s choice to reject the perfect law of the Creator, and follow his own will.

Infertility is not a part of God’s plan for His people.

Jesus said: “I have come that you might have life, and have it more abundantly” (John 10:10).  God is the author and giver of life. He breathed into each of us the breath of life at the moment of our conception. It is He alone that creates and brings forth life, and it is to Him alone that we should turn in our time of need.

Some Key Points from Lesson 1:

God loves you.

This is the first and most important point. God does love YOU. I will be the first to admit that when you are walking through infertility and miscarriage, it doesn’t really seem like He even knows you exist, much less loves you, but despite our personal feelings, the fact remains that He does indeed love you.

                “And may you have the power to understand, as all God's people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is. May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.”                                                                         Ephesians 3:17-19                                                                          

God has a plan for your life.

And it isn’t for you to spend the rest of your life in hopeless longing for a child. In the midst of a broken heart, it is difficult to recognize that God saw every day of your life before you were even conceived.
               
                “You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.” Psalms 139:16

That is both a comforting and sometimes conflicting thought. It is easy to conclude that if God knew everything that was going to happen to you, then He planned for us to have these heartaches. But the very nature of God tells us that isn’t the case. 

                                “’For I know the plans I have for you,’ says the Lord. ‘They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. In those days when you pray, I will listen.’”  Jeremiah 29:11

God’s plan for our life is one only of good. It is a plan of hope. What changed? We did. We all sin. It is, unfortunately, in our nature from birth. When we chose to live apart from the perfect ways of God, we also chose to live apart from His perfect plan.

The point is that God’s plan for our life is one of two options we can choose from. The other is to follow our own path, apart from Him, and try to make some good on our own. There are hundreds of examples in the Bible that show us just how well this works out for people. Turn again to Sarah. She grew weary and tired of waiting, so she deviated from the path and made her own. This detour resulted in generations of violence and strife that are still being played out to this day.

When we surrender to God and seek after Him, we open the door for His perfect will to be done in our life.